3 Things to help you shift your reality
Are you craving something more in your life? More abundance, more success, more purpose — but you just can't seem to get there?
Maybe you know something needs to change but you don't know how. Or perhaps you've been doing all the inner work — the journaling, the courses, the self development — and nothing seems to be shifting. You're trying so hard and still feel stuck.
Here's what I've come to understand — it's often not about trying harder. It's about what we believe is possible for us at a deeper level. Those subconscious beliefs that quietly say "that's not safe" or "that's not possible for me" — they run the show whether we're aware of them or not.
I've been doing a lot of inner work on this myself lately — because I'm on this path too. And it keeps coming back to three things. Three shifts that I believe are at the heart of changing your reality. I'm sharing them here because I think they might resonate with you.
1. Identity
You can't create a new reality from an old identity.
Who you believe you are at your core determines everything - this is your perception of the world — what you allow, what you attract, what's possible for you. If somewhere deep down you believe you're someone who struggles, who isn't quite capable, who doesn't deserve more — that belief will keep recreating the same reality no matter what actions you take on the surface.
The shift starts with asking — who do I need to become to live the life I'm calling in? And then starting to think, feel and act from that identity now, before the evidence shows up.
I've been doing this myself recently. I was at a networking meeting where a lady who practices Feng Shui was talking about our wardrobes — how everything carries an energy, and how holding onto old clothes from a past identity keeps us energetically tied to who we used to be. Your old corporate wardrobe, clothes that no longer fit, things that are worn and tired — they all carry the energy of a version of you that you're moving away from.
It got me thinking about my pyjamas. Old, comfy, familiar — and full of holes. I'd kept reaching for them out of habit. But into the bin they went. Because I deserve better than that — and sometimes the shift starts with something as simple as clearing out what no longer belongs in the life you're building 🌸
Take a look in your wardrobe. What's in there that belongs to an old identity? Old work clothes from a job that drained you, things that don't fit who you're becoming. Clear them out and make space for the new.
2. Energy & Vibration
Your frequency is your signal to the universe.
What you're feeling on the inside — your beliefs, your emotions, your sense of what's possible for you — is constantly broadcasting outward and attracting experiences that match it.
This is why raising your vibration isn't just a nice idea. It's the actual work. When you shift your energy, you shift what you're available to receive.
If you were to check in right now — honestly, in this moment — what is your vibration saying? What is your energy putting out into the universe?
Is it tired? Fed up? Fearful? Anxious? Or is it joy, love, abundance, excitement?
There's no judgement here. We can't be high vibrational all the time — we're human and life is messy. But what we cando is make small, intentional shifts toward a higher frequency. And those small shifts add up.
Here are a few vibrational tools that can help:
When you're feeling anxious or fearful
- Crystal: Black Tourmaline — grounding, protective, helps dissolve fear
- Flower Essence: Mimulus — for known fears and everyday anxiety
When you're feeling tired and depleted
- Crystal: Carnelian — energising, motivating, restores vitality
- Flower Essence: Olive — for complete exhaustion, mental and physical
When you're feeling stuck or hopeless
- Crystal: Citrine — uplifting, warm, reminds you of your own light
- Flower Essence: Gentian — for despondency and self doubt
When you're feeling low or disconnected
- Crystal: Rose Quartz — gentle, loving, reconnects you to your heart
- Flower Essence: Mustard — for deep gloom that descends without reason
Small shifts. One crystal. One essence. One moment of intention. That's all it takes to begin moving the needle.
Crystals, flower essences, aromatherapy and Reiki are the tools I work with every single day — not because they do the work for you, but because they help you get into and stay in the energy of what you're calling in 🌸
3. Awareness
You can't change what you can't see.
So much of what keeps us stuck runs below the surface — old beliefs, patterns we inherited, decisions we made about ourselves and the world a long time ago that we've never questioned.
Becoming aware of these patterns is the first and most powerful step. Not to judge them, but to see them clearly and ask — is this actually true? Is this serving me? Or is this just familiar?
Here are some journaling questions to help you start:
- What pattern keeps showing up in your life that you'd like to change?
- When did you first start believing this story about yourself? Where did it come from?
- How is this pattern keeping you safe — and what might it be costing you?
- What would your life look like if this pattern no longer had a hold on you?
- What is one small thing you could do differently today that would represent a new way of being?
Sit with these gently and without judgement. Awareness alone can be incredibly powerful 💙
Finally
These three things — identity, energy and awareness — are at the heart of everything I do and everything I'm working on myself right now.
Because this work never stops. We're all on the journey.
If something here has resonated and you'd like to explore working together, I'd love to hear from you. Visit the Work with Me page at louisabapothecary.co.uk or drop me an email hello@louisabapothecary.co.uk— I'm always happy to have a conversation about where you are and how I might be able to help 🌸
Much love,
Lou x